The Magic of Connection

When a child is ill, parents and siblings change:

  • we listen
  • we want to understand
  • we have empathy
  • we are present
  • we deeply care about their needs
  • they become the center of our attention
  • we hold back with criticism
  • we ask questions
  • we feel love
  • we care deeply about their wellbeing and happily fulfill their needs
  • we get creative and come up with new ideas
  • we fall out of our routine

These are all innate qualities every human being is born with. We don’t have to learn them.

We all thrive on them and deeply cherish the receiving.

Why do we need to get ill to receive such fabulous human gifts?

Why do we hold back with sharing our innate humanness when things go well?

What is the secret that brings forth these amazing qualities?

The answer is very simple: CONNECTION!

When your child is sick you connect with them in real time! This connection works the magic; it is the most important ingredient for our wellbeing in life we all crave for.

Do you want to experiment with this and see how connecting works so beautifully through you?

For one week, for no special reason, sharing here and there some extra attention with someone you care about:

your child, your spouse, a co-worker, your boss, your sibling …


The Magic of «It makes Sense»

Looking back at your life you will see many things that you would do or handle differently today. Noticing this you might get carried away by sadness or doubt or guilt feelings.

But here is the GAME CHANGER:

Back then it made perfect sense to act the way you did. It made sense given where you were at and the circumstances you were in. It made sense according to all the circumstances, it made sense in the bigger picture of life you could see back then.

Maybe it is how you handled a divorce, or an illness, a fight, an addiction, an abortion or just a conversation with a friend that seemed to go sour.

It all made sense” otherwise you wouldn’t have acted the way you did.

Can you feel the compassion, the love for yourself, the understanding that enters your view of these past events?

“It all made sense” frees us from judgment and therefore brings great relief because we can let the past rest in peace. Now we can move forward with a new, gentler, less judgmental approach and see what makes sense in the next moment.

In today’s circumstances and understanding of life new things make sense, even if it is again a divorce, an illness, an addiction, an abortion etc.

Whatever we do at any given moment, it MUST make sense in the bigger picture of our perception of life right then and there.

With this very simple, yet truthful game changer, our lives lighten up, our hearts can beat in a new rhythm, our minds clear up for new thinking.

About The Three Wishes

NachherAfterDo you know them, your three wishes that the magician promises you to fulfill?

No, I am not the magician who is fulfilling these wishes – but as a Life Coach I am helping you

  • fulfill the longing to even recognize those wishes and dreams,
  • tweak them from the diffuse cloud of magic thinking into the light,
  • explore your path into the realization of those wishes and dreams

If something in your heart starts to flicker – this would be the moment to contact me for a 30 minute, free exploring session in coaching by phone (in English or German).

Coaching is helping you ponder real important questions concerning your precious life.

The Heart of the Matter in Coaching

The dust of many years brought changes.
The self-perception got pale, monotonous, energy-less and therefore life.
The lost balance of Yes and No is banished into the burnout.

Not waiting for Godot.
Moving out of the oblivion into the adequate light.

Searching for your Tracks

IMG_0763In coaching you are with someone, searching for your tracks, one step at a time, curious, sensing each moment how it feels – and then the next step … inquiring with heightened awareness …. slowly leaving the comfort zone behind.


Child’s Play


The Facts: Joy, Spontaneous, Without a plan, From one to the other, Intelligence at work, Carefree, No ‘how’, Just like that, Vigorous, All one, Easy going, Worry-free, Free of judgment ….

Are there moments in your day in which you recognize one of these qualities?

Which one is the most familiar to you? Or to which one would you like to pay more attention?

You can recognize, that sometimes the child-like quality is still naturally alive in you; maybe for one second, maybe for two or three. Again and again.


Same Old, Same Old – Today Too?

HamsterRepeating my mixture of moods again? Is this what is going to happen today again?
Why not? I lived for so long with it – why not another day?
Waking up: the same thoughts, worries, hopes, moods
Getting ready: …..
At work: …
With the kids: …
Listening to people: ….
Mood swings while driving: …
Making sure that the periods of happiness don’t last too long, because ….

“IT’S ME! THAT’S WHY!” (???)

Suspicion of Today


What if the Comfort Zone is made up of EVERYTHING I experienced as a child?: the Good, the Bad and the Ugly? What if, in order to feel ‘comfortable’, to feel ‘good’, to feel like ‘me’, I am calling forth every day these experiences of the good, the bad and the ugly, just in a ‘comfortable mixture’?

The comfortable mixture of: a little bit of joy, a little bit of depressive thoughts, a little bit of put down of myself and others, a little bit of a smile, a little bit of compromise, a little bit of …..

Whats your mixture?